Tuesday, 23 February 2010

A List Of Happy Vs. Stress

Happy

Our new place has rooms for everyone, including guests, and the kitchen is big enough for us to take our meals in.

Our place is nicely furnished and we didn't need to buy a stick of furniture, except for a couple of fans as the boys can't take the air-con blowing through the night.

I really like our neighbourhood. Not too busy, and everything necessary is within an easy walk.

We have a home.

We have a car!! It's really a piece of peace-of-mind for moving about with 3 boys everyday. I drive them and my sister and her kids Mon-Fri, to school and back, and Gadget-daddy does all the other night and weekend outings.

I am renewing my cooking skills which were left asleep in some lost shelves of high-school days.

I can hang out with my older sister Mon-Fri while the older kids are in school.



Stress

The kids are left on their own while I'm cooking (and I only do breakfast and dinner). Sometimes I get Myron to sit on the highchair with a few biscuits while I cook dinner, but that means spoiling some of his dinner.

I really feel the loss of my quality time spent with the boys, now being crowded by chores and more chores.

I can tell my boys are bored/ lack of adult attention, because they love coming into the kitchen and driving me crazy there with their constant opening and closing of doors (fridge, microwave oven, cupboards), and fighting over everything (who's first, whose more, I-can-you-cannot), and baby Myron seems to have so little of my time compared to the two older ones when they were his age. :(

Doing Chinese homework. It especially drives Micah and I crazy.


Not stress... but I miss the old familiarities of hanging out with my other sister, having our morning routines in KL and also staking out at my mom's place whenever I needed a safe place for the boys to play while I chat with my mom.

8 comments:

Cuddly Family said...

huuuuuugss I know how u feel hun.. perhaps get the older 2 to work along with u, esp mealtimes etc.. they will learn that mums cooking n thats alll that..

hang in there, I reckon u r doing just FINE :)

Moomykin said...

Lia,

Thanks, dear. It's just rotten how at this age they want you to play with them, but can't help you with chores so that you have more time to play with them.

By the time they are old enough to help out with chores, they don't want you to play with them anymore.
:(

Blessed mum said...

Everyone dislike changes but am sure you will find and settle into your routine soon.

Ann said...

I can quite imagine the stress you mention has been plenty tuned down in words!

Hopefully pretty soon the boys will get used to entertaining themselves or playing together.

How is the pregnancy getting along?

Mummy-yeoh said...

Hi Kin, glad to hear that you guys have settled in :)

Moomykin said...

Blessed mum,

Yes, change is hard. I guess it is hardest when I feel it's affecting my time spent with kid's.

I suppose a good way of seeing that is that they are learning more to be independent of Mommy.

Guess I am just not ready to let go.

Moomykin said...

Ann,

Toned down, yes. I think sometimes I just try not to be too affected about certain things, but the kids have made me cry quite a few time, and that was out of stress.

Pregnancy... errr... Ok I suppose. Have been busy and have lousy excuses for not going for my check up. But I have felt the baby kick a couple of times.
:D

Will put an update on that soon. Promise.

Moomykin said...

Mummy-yeoh,

Thanks. I suppose we have somewhat settled in, but I still feel very green about my cooking skills. Maybe it's also affected by Micah being a picky eater, and My not wanting to spend too much time over the stove.