This story is specially for my kai-lui, milochel.
So here's a bit more on "something sounding like an extract from a teenage romance novel" from the last post.
So this friend of mine (shall not mention the name, but I don't think you'd be so "blur" not to know, right?) and I were in the same gang that hung out in school. We spend almost every morning before school started and also after school as a bunch of close knit friends. We were crazy about having fun, but serious about helping each other out to be better people as individuals and in the community. (Incidentally, Gadget-daddy was also with us in this gang. Yes, like I said, close-knit friends.)
He and I wrote letters and notes to each other almost every other day, if not every day and we would chat on the phone a lot. We actually got very close because he confided in me about his struggle with parental relationships (he came from a very good home where he felt pressured by parents who are "never wrong").
Eventually we both grew mix feeling for each other.
Through some obvious hints, we let each other know there was a crush on both sides.
He was always kind and encouraging.
He was witty and funny, and sometimes very profound.
The one thing I really appreciated was his respect for me.
It was at this time we both knew I was not ready to be committed in a relationship.
I was afraid.
Afraid that if it failed, I would lose a very good friend.
Afraid that if it failed, I might not survive a broken heart.
So we never actually got "involved" although some people observing us could tell there were some sparks between us.
Eventually he moved to study in another state and we were only in contact once or twice a year.
It was at this time that he was away, that I spent a lot of time with another good friend, now the love of my life (read that real love story here).
So life is such, that some "what if's" would really have ended us up in really different lives from the one we live now.
I am glad for who I am with. Gadget-daddy and I are both so glad.
I am also glad that with him, we are all still very good friends.
I am sure his wife knew about "us" too, as he is the type to not to keep secrets from the one he trusts. So I am glad we are all very good friends.
When we meet we talk about our kids, our parents and siblings. The men talk about financial managements, the wives exchange news about a common friend. We still laugh about some unbelievable incidences we encountered. Occasionally we talk about our funny school tales, but not too much as we do not want his wife to feel left out.
So, we are cool.
Just that having my child carry the same name as he might be a little too close for comfort ...
I'm sure his mom (she knew about "us" too) would raise an eyebrow.