Wednesday, 5 March 2008
Control vs Independence
Max is coming to the stage where he is starting to do a lot of things for himself. He actually is more independent by nature, wants to do everything for himself*, while Micah has always been more "manja" and wants help with everything, or have things done for him all the time if possible.
I remember when Micah turned two and I saw him open the room's door by himself the first time, exclaimed it to Daddy. Daddy said that he was the one who taught him how to do that. The first thing that came to mind was, "That's it. Now there are no more boundaries." At present, he can open the door with a key, but has not quite mastered the pad-lock and key.
Max is now at the height where he can just reach the doorknob, but has not quite got the turning it round properly. BUT the other day Micah showed him how to lock it by pressing on the lock button on the knob. Now I feel like there's going to be an episode of him locking himself in the room and screaming, just waiting to happen...
So, I am sure all mom's** wrestle with this, to still have control over the kids' movements and activities or to let them do it and blow it occasionally...which means more mess to clear...
* At one and a half, Max could feed himself quite well with a fork or a spoon. These days he wants to hold the shower spray and wash himself, under Mommy's watchful eyes of course, or he'd be spraying the whole place drenched. He occasionally attempts to put on his own clothes, but not successful so far. He can now open the fridge to get a chilled box drink for himself and Micah, as well as carry a stool to the side of the counter and get himself a cup of water from the dispenser.
**I say mom's because most dad's I know will want the kids to be completely independent if they could. But that's probably because the mom's are the ones cleaning up the mess all the time.