Monday, 5 May 2008

The Pains of Friendships

I met a very dear friend for lunch today. She was desperate and needed to talk to someone.

She had been like my best friend from the time we were 14.

Today she told me of the mess her marriage is in and also how her work place had become like a circus. People she had depended on for comfort and advise let her down. Friends she thought she had at work were backstabbing her.

"I feel like my whole life is going to crash."

We talked over lunch. We both cried.
My heart goes out to her.


I got an SMS from another dear friend. I was planning to meet up with before she leave for a new life in Australia. She said she was already at the airport, about to board. Her working visa must have been approved suddenly and she had to get to work asap.

I don't know when I will see her again.

This is a friend I got to know through another friend. Since we met, we had been like bosom buddies. We shared through her struggle of a failed relationship. She shared with me in my days of caring for my ailing father. Now she will be many many miles away and I will miss her.

My late father once said this to me,
"The older you grow, the less friends you'll have. All you need is a few good friends."
At that time I did not want to believe it. But now it's proving so true.

My world has shrunk to a pretty small orb, revolving mainly around my kids and other family members.

My friends are like the stars that shine in the universe, lighting up my night.

Don't see much of my friends these days, but I know they are still there and I know they are always precious.

Today I cried for my two precious friends.


Ann said...


Do not despair...your blogger friends will always be there!!!

Sometimes it is not how near they are but how dear they are...

Memories are the fragrance that friends leave behind when they walk away...

I am being melancholic.

I hope your 1st friend will be alright. I really feel for her too....if nothing else survivies, I pray her marriage will..

As for your 2nd friend...with Air Asia, everyone can fly! And one day they will go to more places in Aussie and more, all is not lost..

Hope you feel alright...

Moomykin said...


Thank you. I am still feeling a little blue, but not hopeless.

I hope my 1st friend will be alright too. Praying for her the whole day, just walking with her at this time.

2nd friend, for her sake, I hope she will only come back for a holiday. That means she will be happy there.

hissychick said...

Hugs to you.

As to your friend coming to Australia...means that you might have to come out here for a visit someday too. There's a few nice Aussies around the place you know :)

Moomykin said...


Thanks. She is in the outskirts of Sydney. If ever I am to come by Australia, I will give you guys a visit. :)

Our Jouneys.... said...

Aiyoh...Mui Ngee left alreadi...sayang..I wanted to call have to email...sob sob sob...

Well soon I will miss u too when u go off to SG

Moomykin said...

our journeys,

Yes, too bad she left in quite a hurry.

Well, at least when we go, we are still pretty near enough for you to take a bus or drive down. :)